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It’s Just Who I am: Transgender

February 26, 2018 - Articles, Columns, It’s Just Who I am, Lauren Means, Question and Answer, Transgender

Dispelling myths, misconceptions, and stereotypes by Lauren Means Note: This series is not meant to place labels. The purpose is to educate and to open up conversations among people. This is not all-inclusive in terms of questions, facts, or terminology. This is a starting point…

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Let Clutter Flow

February 20, 2018 - Articles, Columns, Health + Wellness, Journal, LGBT Ally, Mental Health, Middle Tennessee, Susan Gardner, Tennessee

by Susan Gardner Clutter flows into our houses. With children in the house, things increase with each new activity or size. As we age, the house easily becomes cluttered with inheritances from family members. Some of us attract clutter like Pigpen attracts dust! Sometimes we…

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dear allie: praying away the gay?

October 13, 2017 - Articles, Columns, Dear Allie, Health + Wellness

PRAY FOR THEIR HAPPINESS, NOT AGAINST THEIR LGBT IDENTITY. by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie, I’m writing because I’m concerned about my twin sister. We are high school freshmen living in a small Tennessee town. My sister is gay, and I’ve known that just about as long as there was anything…

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Embrace the Messies

September 13, 2017 - Articles, Columns, Health + Wellness, Mental Health, Uncategorized

by Susan Gardner, CPO-CD Behind the world of minimalism, organization, Ikeas, and Container Stores, lurks the world of messies. Messies can be out by the nature of their public desk and challenged time management while others remain hidden behind façades of orderliness or behind closed doors, known only…

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“it’s just who i am” : Introduction

September 11, 2017 - Articles, Columns, Health + Wellness, Journal

by Lauren Means “I’m genderqueer.” “I’m trans.” “I’m demisexual.” “I’m intersex.” A lot goes into determining one’s identity. Some people are assigned a sex at birth and it matches with their gender identity. Others are assigned a sex at birth and struggle with an internal…

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Q&A with Chef Jay Kill

Introducing Chef Jay Kill

September 5, 2017 - Articles, Columns, Food and Beverage, LGBT Advocate, LGBT Community, Middle Tennessee, Nashville, Q&A with Chef Jay, Tennessee

Focus welcomes our new food+beverage columnist, Chef Jay Kill. He will be answering your most burning questions. Before Chef Jay begins, we thought it would be nice for our readers to learn about him. Do you remember when you realized you were gay? I knew…

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Q+A with Chef Jay

Meet Chef Jay Kill

July 19, 2017 - Articles, Columns, Food and Beverage, LGBT Advocate, Question and Answer

Focus welcomes our new food+beverage columnist, Chef Jay Kill. He will be answering your most burning questions. Before he begins, we thought it would be nice for our readers to learn about him. Do you remember when you realized you were gay? Interesting question… I knew…

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Dr. Tara Ralph

Come out to your doctors, it may save your life

July 18, 2017 - Columns, Health + Wellness

Feel empowered. Feel encouraged. Take control of your health. Come out to your providers, it may save your life. I guess I should start an article out about telling the truth to doctors, by first confessing that before I became a doctor, I did not always…

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Being comfortable in your own skin

July 17, 2017 - Columns, Uncategorized

Coming out is a process that is different for everyone. In the end, you’re the one who makes the decision about who you come out to and how. But these all-purpose tips can help you through the process. Consider the “who” and “why” before deciding…

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