Dear Allie, I have a friend at a different school that has a Gay-Straight Alliance, and they get to do so much interesting stuff. I want to start one at my school, but the administration seems pretty conservative. I’m not sure it’s even allowed. Where do I start? Do I have the right to a GSA?
Dear Allie, I have this constant voice in my head telling me how awful I am. If I make one choice, the voice shrieks at me for being a total queen. If I make the other choice, it tells me I’m a fraud. There is no winning. I know the voice comes from my critical homophobic upbringing. I keep trying to ignore it, but it just keeps getting louder. I’m exhausted. Help.
Dear Allie, I’ve noticed that some of our new LGBT+ clients seem uncomfortable or anxious about entering an environment that screams old-world-values. What can I do to make our office a more welcoming and supportive space?
Dear Allie, I’m about to attend the wedding of my good friend’s daughter and will be part of the celebrations outside of the church ceremony itself. One of the groomsmen is known to tell racist and xenophobic jokes, including ‘jokes’ about people of color, LGBT folks, and even Jews and gas chambers! This is not acceptable to me.
Dear Allie, Last month, an acquaintance posted something online about non-binary gender identity, and I made some unintentionally offensive comments. Since then I’ve learned more about gender identity and can see how hurtful my comments were. I sent a message to this woman apologizing, explaining the context of my ignorance, and expressing a hope that we can continue as friends. But she hasn’t responded at all. I feel like such a jerk. What can I do?
Dear Allie, I’m a single transwoman in my 30s. My trans-status is very personal information that I only want to discuss with someone I know and trust. I think I should have the right to keep it to myself. What do you say?
When I came out, my highly religious uncle verbally attacked me. He called me names, made me feel horrible for my choices and told me I was an abomination and even drug up my past—saying that I’m not going to be any good—blaming my mistakes on liking females.Should I be patient and try to educate him? Or should I cut my losses and continue to live my life as I am?