Sarah Rutledge Fischer

Dear Allie, I have this constant voice in my head telling me how awful I am. If I make one choice, the voice shrieks at me for being a total queen. If I make the other choice, it tells me I’m a fraud. There is no winning. I know the voice comes from my critical homophobic upbringing. I keep trying to ignore it, but it just keeps getting louder. I’m exhausted. Help.

Dear Allie, The other day, I overheard my son describe his new boyfriend as non-binary. So, help a Gen-Xer out. What does this millennial speak mean?

Dear Allie, Last month, an acquaintance posted something online about non-binary gender identity, and I made some unintentionally offensive comments. Since then I’ve learned more about gender identity and can see how hurtful my comments were. I sent a message to this woman apologizing, explaining the context of my ignorance, and expressing a hope that we can continue as friends. But she hasn’t responded at all. I feel like such a jerk. What can I do?